Very few address the silent battle of the spousal - caregiver.
It's a universal position.
Doesn't know age, sex, race, or creed.
It is the life of one who's life partner has taken ill.
We tend to look at the needs of the "sick" one
very rarely do I see much addressing the stress, strain, resilience, fortitude of the individual who is left to keep it all together in spite of.....
Their tears are dismissed because "they" are NOT the patient.....
but indeed they are.
They didnt sign on for a number of things,
yet they are there, t'il death do us part.
They are the ones who have had no caresses, hugs or kisses
They have to find ways to pleasure themselves within a sexless union
Hopefully they are sustained by love not marred with disdain
Whether the partner is in a chronic, terminal, hospitalized, ambulatory situation, spousal commitment takes a heck of a hit.
The mental and emotional strength that takes to maintain one's own personality in light of a changing relationship landscape that you could have never foreseen ...
is taxing.
There have always been those who we know they are going through but we are there in crisis, but not in the long haul.
Call your friend who's loved one has been ailing...
Call your ace, who you know for them and their partner the hospital is now a "second home".
Remind them that they have to have a life, no matter what is going on.
They have to keep their heads clear and have to have a point of sanity and light in their lives.
Many are spousal - caregivers; Be a friend today and let them know you care!! 1
It's a universal position.
Doesn't know age, sex, race, or creed.
It is the life of one who's life partner has taken ill.
We tend to look at the needs of the "sick" one
very rarely do I see much addressing the stress, strain, resilience, fortitude of the individual who is left to keep it all together in spite of.....
Their tears are dismissed because "they" are NOT the patient.....
but indeed they are.
They didnt sign on for a number of things,
yet they are there, t'il death do us part.
They are the ones who have had no caresses, hugs or kisses
They have to find ways to pleasure themselves within a sexless union
Hopefully they are sustained by love not marred with disdain
Whether the partner is in a chronic, terminal, hospitalized, ambulatory situation, spousal commitment takes a heck of a hit.
The mental and emotional strength that takes to maintain one's own personality in light of a changing relationship landscape that you could have never foreseen ...
is taxing.
There have always been those who we know they are going through but we are there in crisis, but not in the long haul.
Call your friend who's loved one has been ailing...
Call your ace, who you know for them and their partner the hospital is now a "second home".
Remind them that they have to have a life, no matter what is going on.
They have to keep their heads clear and have to have a point of sanity and light in their lives.
Many are spousal - caregivers; Be a friend today and let them know you care!! 1
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