A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE … Pamela Redmond Satran

This piece is instead the work of Pamela Redmond Satran, a writer who has penned five novels (The Man I Should Have Married, Babes in Captivity, Younger, Suburbanistas, and The Home for Wayward Supermodels) and numerous articles for a variety of publications including Glamour, Parenting, Bon Appetit, Good Housekeeping, The New York Times, Men's Journal, Redbook, Ladies Home Journal, and The Washington Post. Entitled "30 ThingsEvery Woman Should Have & Should Know By the Time She's 30," the list appeared under her byline in Glamour Magazine in May 1997. 


I just had to share the knowledge .. 

To culminate International Women's Day, I leave you with a Pamela Redmond Satran poem…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE …
enough money within her control to move out
and rent a place of her own, even if she never wants to or needs to…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
something perfect to wear if the employer, or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
a youth she’s content to leave behind….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
a past juicy enough that she’s looking forward to
retelling it in her old age….

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ….
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
one friend who always makes her laugh… and one who lets her cry…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE ..
a good piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in her family…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE .
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems, and a recipe for a meal, that will make her guests feel honored…

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE
a feeling of control over her destiny.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to fall in love without losing herself.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and confront a friend without; ruining the friendship…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
when to try harder… and WHEN TO WALK AWAY…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that she can’t change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents..

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
that her childhood may not have been perfect…but its over…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she would and wouldn’t do for love or more…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
how to live alone… even if she doesn’t like it…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW..
whom she can trust,
whom she can’t,
and why she shouldn’t take it personally…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
where to go…
be it to her best friend’s kitchen table…
or a charming inn in the woods…
when her soul needs soothing…

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW…
what she can and can’t accomplish in a day…
a month…and a year…

Documenting is what I do

I was a photographer for our high school yearbook. Midwood.
I was photographer and photo editor for our college yearbook. Temple U.

The common thread: the ability to cover an occasion for setup to break down and prayerfully not miss a beat, yet also show you what you missed.

Boxing is not a sport that came along too often in my world.
Ive had to opportunity and access to it here in Charleston SC.

The Golden Gloves matches are the road to infamy; plain and simple.

To be able to attend the pre-lims to the regionals was more than gravy for me.

Boxing is dance to me. The feet are the foundation, the hands and arms the flourish.

Now this is a tricky thing for me mentally, because the parts of me that dont work correctly is exactly what you need to be in that ring - manipulation of fine motor skills and combined strength and sweet footwork.

So to see them in action from 9 or 10 years old and up to 35.. HEAVEN!!!

Now to bring this all home, I was in the company of Albert "Hollywood" Meggett of Charleston Boxing Club on his 84th birthday no less!!!

Yes Im about that life, listening to Elders all day!!!!! He aint no joke.

The people, young and old love him; he held court at the side of the gym and the stream of well wishers, old and new friends was something that only happens when you're a well respected man and trainer in of the Fight Game.

I had a blast.. The CBC boxers didnt bring home any wins this time but I have got over 2 hours of footage and nearly 1000 pics.

My blurs are on point and Im loving the videos...

They'll take a while to produce the various products.. Some I'll give to the gym for training purposes and others will be for public display!!!!

The training.. the teamwork, yet is all comes down to the person in the ring against their opponent and the referee to keep them in order.

Oh yeah and a stop by Liberty Tap Room on the Lake .. if you're ever in Irmo SC... it's a great place with an awesome view.

There a lot of emotions at a boxing match. The ring will silence bravado and bring a smile from the quiet ones.

As folks have always said, there is a lot of heart in the fight game.
Paul Williams was in attendance... a young man the boxing world loves.

A great day, now a memory... time for me to go deal with the evidence of it all!!! ‪#‎DocumentingIsWhatIDo‬