Limiting one's exposure to pain

Let's see... do you think if I click "I dont want to see" this on enough of the Generational Hollywood Sex Scandal that FB will get the hint...

See folks just dont get it.. this is only the beginning...

That man aint roll by himself.. you know how many old timers are BUGGING RIGHT NOW.....

Quite a few are still entertaining... folks have to understand that TIMES WERE DIFFERENT....

All this BS they say about WHY WHY WHY... YOU KEPT YOUR MOUTH SHUT... just like how you kept is shut when old men in your area wanted you to sit on their laps... DAYUM Them freaking FLASHBACKS - DO NOT FADE CORRECTLY .. they can always be TRIGGERED...

These freedom of speeches and access to INFORMATION wasnt possible back them..

Shit.. today someone farts across the world, we smell the stench before the sphincter even tightens back up.

What I am saying that as a SURVIVOR of all types of shit... this constant bombardment ... overexposure of PREDATORS, VICTIMS and Praise Da Lord ... SURVIVORS (The only thing that eases the spirit) is stressful.

Trust me.. this is one of the times Im really glad I dont have a television.
I couldnt take the constant assault from the news media.

On the internet.. if I scroll by or dont click .. I can buffer myself a bit.

As bold as I may be... Im fragile.. my spirit is delicate. Im sensitive to my fellow human beings on this planet called Earth.

Empathy .. the ability to understand and share the feelings of another. (Dictionary Definition)

Empathy - I feel what you feel... your pain, anger, disgust, joy, pride, sorrow.. with such intensity that my stomach flips and my eyes leak. (Me)

It takes a lot of work to shield oneself from the constant pain of the world.. seeking out the JOY is really hard work but it has benefits.

I dont have Battered Woman's Syndrome and my skin is not that thick that I can just "pass on by" or in some cases "just accept" that I have to be exposed to needless violence, bloodshed and watching folks human rights be trampled.

Im Pisces... my head is not in the sand.. Ive already been to Hell on Earth and I have learned how to LIVE on my terms to the best of my ability given the circumstance.

LIVING means that I MAKE THE CHOICES ...

I CHOOSE to LIVE in the Lowcountry, it may be lonely (Hey Im coming out of Brooklyn.. there is always someone to play with) my health dictates the need for it's climate ... again old before my time... LOL

Ive filtered a lot of violence out of my system. Through it all, my spirit recognizes genuine hugs...

Social media has a way of bringing out the nice and the nasty.. what makes these recollections of "alleged" abuse even more hard to stomach is the comments.

They are at times cruel yet fortunately there are many who speak ... they bare their souls to quell the animal in one and inform the ignorant in the same breath. RIGHT ON SISTAS!!!!

It's a simple choice that I make because I dont want to feel the pain.
It hurts too much... shoot I cant afford to be depressed up in here... my life already has medical mysteries...

We all have something that we could work ourselves up about and raise our blood pressure.

I try very hard not to expose myself to things that has me making an "ugly" face too often... :-D

At this moment.. leaves dance on a so far 12 hour rainy Lowcountry Sunday .. traffic is steady and moving on Upper King St. (Praise Da Lawd)
The hesitated sound of key clicks this keyboard, as the moisture invades my fingers... (time for medication) ..

 ^^^^^ I had a good run .. let my mind flow and fingers wander.

One has to practice achieving moments of serenity to maintain one's sanity. 1 <3 #IGoQuietNow

Jezaaaazz… when I think about the goodness of LOVING YOURSELF…

Yes I must admit ….. Whew Lawd… I slid… and I do mean … but HALLELUJAH… I GAVE MYSELF MY FREEDOM…. Yep snapped right the hell back and HOW YA LIKE ME NOW…

Shoot one is always healing … but that’s when you know you’re living.. the pain is nonexistent yet the memory only brings a hearty laugh because you can more the breathe now….

Jezaaaazz… when I think about the goodness of LOVING YOURSELF…

I may not have quite a few things… but HUNTY… I GOT ME… YES… TRUST ME…

When I love me in the mirror… the wrinkles and rings… bulges and well it aint cottage cheese.. more like custard… you know that shea butter and coconut plus vitamin E… whew… anyway … I have love me moments… every time I see the scars … and I rub a little extra stuff on them… I smile…

I AM FREAKING HERE…. now I may be hard to swallow at times… yet those who really take the time to know me… ssshhh dont let now secrets out… LOL

Every now and then I think about .. being stagnant… then I realize… Ive been running since I was 1… Ive had addresses but a HOME devoid of stress and filled with a human acceptance kind of love …. Let me get back to you on that one…

But this moment.. 3:03 pm Charleston SC … Baby Im good…

I have been the foundation for others while in the midst of hell .. so yes.. Im enjoying me time…

The self imposed mental slavery that precluded the physical slavery and emotional bondage which it took more than the spilling of blood to release me from.. WOW

See that’s that HARD HEADED SHIT… like we tell our children and our parents told us and their parents told them… “I went through all that so you wouldn’t have to” but guess what … what I experienced wasnt in my DNA..

This was some evolvement in the change of times, generational and simply, My Road.

I realized a long time ago that “my voice” would have more credence as the I experienced more… There is a process to everything… some blow up early and fizzle out.. some as they get with their own shit… they can speak on the hills and valleys of life…

Dont ever be scared to break free of YOUR PERSONAL BONDAGE… Hell Yeah it’s scary as phuq… but I here to tell you.. it’s worth the risk.. YOU MATTER!!! 1Luv

Let me holler at you a minute...

What's the excuse you use to STOP you from MAKING CHANGES in your life that YOU KNOW will benefit YOU and YOURS in the long run...

but you know folks would be damn angry if you went on the "ME" Bus right now... let them stay in their lane...

Let me holler at you a minute...

See this is the thing about MANIFESTING A DREAM... at some point or another... folks are going to be a tad bit angry because you are spending so much time with YOU...

Until you take the time to PUT YOUR PLAN INTO ACTION you will always be just "plodding along"... DAMN IT LIFE IS FOR LIVING!!!

Make the SACRIFICE ... I know it is hard, lonely and Lord knows it aint easy.

Yet Inner Peace is so very worth it... when you know YOU are doing what YOU ARE CALLED TO DO... respect YOUR SPIRIT and HONOR YOUR SOUL...

Allow for UNIVERSAL LOVE to be shared and spread through you.

See, HAPPY PEOPLE  .... they make a difference in the lives of others..

Every now and then .. an inbox message.. "How can I get what you have?" HUH????

Im spiritually blessed with some measure of balance because Ive weathered a few storms.

It's given me the fortitude and preparedness to Stop, Listen and then Act with the assurance of future storms to come... yet the knowledge to know... I can see the silver lining in the clouds.. always have.

What gets you through is FAITH .. yeah it can get weary..

Yet, if you have indeed been true to YOU .. you can handle anything.

See when something comes to ROCK YOUR FOUNDATION.. if your azz aint know how to STAND ... then you just might fall ... some may sway and rock.. to and fro... yet the past has given you the lesson to PLANT YOUR FEET FIRMLY and BE TRUTHFUL TO YOURSELF AND YOUR BELIEFS ...
then Yes... whatever is left in the wake of the storm...you can handle.

Give yourself a break and LOVE ON YOU A LITTLE BIT..

You got to treat YOU right to know what you can accept from another.

Check YOU out... it's ever too late or too early...

TO WORK WITH WHAT THE MOST HIGH GAVE YOU. ‪#‎takealeapoffaith‬

UPDATED - Charleston SC Lowcountry Kwanzaa 2014 Schedule -

UPDATED!!!!

HABARI GANI!!!!

Seven Days of Kwanzaa: A celebration of community and heritage

UMOJA (Unity) 
Friday Dec 26. 5 - 6 pm
Lighting of the KWANZAA KINARA, Marion Square Park

Friday, December 26, 2014 7pm - 9pm
Reclamation Service
Location: Nichols Chapels AME
57 Kennedy Street, Charleston, SC

KUJICHAGULIA (Self Determination)
Saturday, December 27, 2014 6pm - 8pm
Annual Multifaceted Kwanzaa Program sponsored by Ta Seti Dynasty
Location: YMCA
2085 Cannon Street, Charleston, SC

UJIMA (Collective Work and Responsibility)
Sunday, December 28, 2014 5 - 7 p.m. 
Charleston Youth Photo Exhibit opening at 1600 Meeting Street. Sponsored by Family TYES SC, Enough Pie and Gullah Society. Refreshment donations are appreciated!

UJAMAA (Cooperative Economics)

Monday, December 29, 2014 2:30pm – 7pm
Celebration of Ujamaa
Parade begins at Phillip Simmons Mall Park (America St. and Columbus St., Charleston, SC, 29413) and ends at St. Julian Devine Community Center (1 Cooper St, Charleston, SC). There will be a program to celebrate Ujamaa after the parade ends.

NIA (Purpose)
Tuesday, December 30, 2014 4pm - 8pm
Evening in the spirit of Nia, sponsored by the Tri-County Black Nurses Association and the YWCA
Program Centered around the principle of Nia.
Location: YWCA
106 Coming Street, Charleston, SC

KUUMBA (Creativity)
Wednesday, December 31, 2014 4pm - 6pm
Discuss and celebrate the principle of Kwanzaa with your family.

IMANI (Faith)
Thursday, January 1, 2015 1pm
Annual Remembrance Day Ceremony Sankofa Burial Grounds
Location: Corner of Folly Rd. and Maybank Hwy

KARAMU (Feast) 4pm - 8pm
African Drum and Dance and Various Performing Groups
Reading of Essays from Contest Winners, Children Arts and Crafts to celebrate Kuumba
Location: Ferndale Community Center
1919 Bolden Ave, North Charleston, SC

It takes work!!

Happiness comes from working through frustration and anger to a level of clarity and peace. It takes work!! 

Consider yourself BLESSED.

Whether rich or poor .. even in between.. there are many who will not be allowed to opportunity to live their own lives.. pursue their own dreams.

If you're living your life on your own terms.. consider yourself BLESSED.

I know they'd be listening tonight!! ‪#‎Immigration‬ #OMABAImmigrationSpeech 8 pm

I know they'd be listening tonight!! ‪#‎Immigration‬

‪#‎ImAnAmericanYetBornAnImmigrant‬

Just had a flashback to the plane ride here.. Pan Am... you know they used to give out those little wings... had a big doll with me that sang "London Bridge is Falling Down" .. I was 3 ..

British born yet traveling on a Jamaican passport as such was the birthplace of my Mother.

The next flight years later .. headed to Jamaica...

I remember returning a few years later....my traveling companion was whisked through.. she was American born .. I was being pulled aside and hearing my name over the loudspeaker...

Immigration Officers had called my Mother in.. seems since I was the holder of a Green Card.... Alien Registration card I was to be in the country every 364 days.. the excuse of me being in school was unwarranted..

The next morning instead of chilling... off to INS we go....

Fast forward High school the little box under the signature line wasnt checked... though the authorities knew at that time I was a citizen of the USA ... I filled out financial aid forms checking Alien...

Fastforward 1996 ... Immigration and Welfare Reform Act... in there was the grandfather clause I had been looking for.

I had told my father I wouldnt be a citizen until I knew the laws and the rules.. this was necessary because I saw someone who was the child of immigrants like myself who had filed and the day to swear in was taken aside.. handed her naturalization certificate and given a hand shake.

You see at this point the topic of "Derivative Citizen" was more than clarified.

Here was proof in my face...

I downloaded, printed and read that long ass document... there it was..
I could proceed..

At this point it comes down to filing the correct paperwork.. it's all in the fine print. Even more so if I had been male and needed for Selective Service.. I would have been informed that I was a citizen..

Yet, another way is to apply for a US passport..

You see parents who seek naturalization and have children under the age of 18 no matter where they are in the world; who fail to check the box under the signature line leave their children in a strange limbo.

I did not raise my hand to swear in when I claimed my naturalization certificate.. you see some 20 years before... my Father had already raised his..

The INS gives you a handshake.. and if you're lucky .. you get your old passport / visa / green card pics back as well.  1  ‪#‎RespectPOTUS‬

My father delayed leaving the country just so he could ‪#‎VOTEFOROBAMA‬ .. I need to listen tonight before the Old Man shows up in my dreams.